New Home + New Year

Tuesday, January 1, 2019

I am so excited to have something that I am passionate about to share again! I loved writing blog posts when Apple was a baby about gear and parenting. This last year I had been so focused on building the brand Dringk Eatery + Bar I hadn't posted much here!

Now to the house stuff! We bought a fixer upper! I can't wait to share as we upgrade each of the rooms! 

I have started by painting the house entirely inside and installed new flooring. It was a dingy grayish white and the previous people removed the flooring. Concrete was not my thing! My initial plan is to upgrade the kitchen first then move on to the living room and master bathroom. Eventually I will be replacing the windows and doors but I need to plant my money tree first!

Here are a few before pics. I am also linking the latest upgrades I am getting asked about that I did in the kitchen. I have changed my mind on the backsplash so that has gone on hold and I am still deciding on the island that I want to put on. At first I wanted to do black but I may now do a solid granite one.

The following posts I will be better at getting proper before pictures. I was a little overwhelmed with Ace our dog dying, Christmas and moving during a very busy week at our biz!


The before wall color. It has low ceilings so I wanted to make it as bright as possible.
We also had the ugliest vent from a swamp cooler that I had removed.

This light is going bye bye!
And so did the concrete floors.


Picking the right flooring is hard! We chose Lifeproof in color "Walton Oak" from Home Depot




Flooring down! It is dark when cloudy and nice and bright on light days. We have many bright days in Palm Springs so it is just perfect!

Apple caught testing paint in the master bedroom.



Wall Color : Semi Gloss Behr PURE WHITE
Ceiling Color : Flat Behr PURE WHITE
Master Bedroom : Behr INK BLACK

Before handles

Quick kitchen upgrade while we wait for tile, appliances, island and more!



Handles Linked HERE


This stove is being replaced with the one similar to below.


It is by GE Cafe series. Ours will be the 30" with 6 burners and double stove.


Also adding the matching fridge! Can not wait for it to arrive.


I will be linking most of my finds and loves on my new Amazon page!





Toddler Christmas Gift Guide

Wednesday, November 28, 2018

Apple will be turning 3 years old just after Christmas! It can be tricky to find the perfect gifts for this age. Here are a few idea's that I have loved for my kids in the older toddler years and she new gift idea's I plan to buy for Apple.

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We got this bike from the small shop www.hellolittelpage.com and I can not wait for her to see it on Christmas Morning! It resembles my bike and I know she will love the little basket. I used learning bikes for the boys and they because such good bike riders very young. Kaeden and Kingsley used theirs until about 6 years old because they both loved doing tricks on them!


The Field Toy allows your little one to use creative play! It comes with a couple small animals, fence and tractor. We picked up some extra horses because currently that is Apple's obsession. Under $30 this makes for an affordable gift.



Around age 3 I bought Braedy (he's now 20) a toy Vacuum. He was obsessed with it! I found this cute one that will be a perfect addition to Apple's little house set up.



I find my kids love anything they see me doing. So when we found this pizza set I had to get it for them. If you ask Raquel she would tell you it is the most played with food item we have! Only 16$ makes it a great affordable gift.
What would a morning be without coffee? This Nespresso type machine is so cute! Apple pretends to brew us a cup while I am drinking my real morning coffee.





We got this grocery store set up a few months ago and it has been a hit! Kingsley and Apple play for hours with it. It is under 75$ too!


This shopping cart is one of the best out there! It is a little more cost than some but it truly is worth it because it is so durable! Many are flimsy and this it truly the opposite. So sturdy.

A bit more of an investment gift but one that will last for years! We have 2 of these loungers and they are the most used seats in the house. Works perfect for toddlers to teens watching TV, reading a book or just relaxing.


One of Apple's new favorite toys in her house set up! Be warned you may find items out of your hamper in it like we do. Lol!




For a deluxe all in one  kitchen this is perfect!


Potty Training Tips...

Wednesday, October 10, 2018

Just before Christmas I started potty training Apple. I was flooded with requests for this post from parents looking for tips. Since life has been extra busy I wasn't able to get this done as fast as I wanted. So.. finally after 2 months I am sharing a not so short and sweet post with my tips.





First thing to look for is knowing if your child is ready. Potty training isn't about winning a mom award because you trained your 15 month old. (Which typically is the mom is trained to put them on. Not the toddler asking.) Do they know when they go potty or as Apple would say at 22 month "stinky"? If they are sharing with you to change them or hiding, then that is a sign that they are aware of what they are doing. I personally waiting until 24 months with all my kids. I feel the battle to be easier when they understand more. I am also not worried about posting on my Facebook with my 9 month old "My kid is potty trained! Take that bitches! This mama can do it better than you!" JK.

So now that you understand when to start. It also comes down to your commitment. A LONG time ago I wrote a blog on getting your child to sleep in the crib at 6 months. (most read post ever-still is) Commitment was key and it's the same for potty training. Do you have a weekend away coming up? A busy work schedule that is above normal? Friends coming to town to stay with you? If you have something that will be distracting to you I recommend you wait until you can give a good week to 10 days commitment to your child. Typically, my method they are trained by day 3 but you still need to remind them and be there fully for them for the additional time. Or they can revert.


Where to start?
Make your purchases. (linked items at end of post)

Bjorn Potty - My fave for the floor and stability. Also cleans easily.
Training pants - I used Applecheeks and burts bees.
Potty seat for toilet top (optional but good for getting them used to the big toilet)
Step stool for hand washing and getting up to the toilet.
Treats of choice. I use Nerds Candy.

The morning of no more diapers.

When your little one wakes up you will put them directly into underwear. I do not use pull ups as they defeat the purpose of training since they act like a diaper. You need to communicate lots to your child about going potty. I put my child on the potty and cheer and get excited yelling "Yay!! Potty! Big Girl (or boy)" That sets the tone for this being an exciting and rewarding experience. I then allow them off the potty even if they didn't pee yet and with a stern voice say "NO pee pee in panties." They usually look at you with sadness, like who are you crazy person? You were so happy a minute ago.

This goes on repeat constantly reminding them they need to pee on the potty and you keep putting them on. I suggest every 30 minutes. YES, you will be worn out.

Now that you understand what you need to do and you also gave up your day. Plan to give up everything up for a couple days. You will need to step up the potty game. It isn't just putting them on and taking them off. 

This is where Nerds come into play. A few times on the potty you need to reward them with something more than mama cheering. I give 1 teeny Nerd since we do not like to give a lot of candy in our house. When I am done cheering that Apple is going potty I will reward her with a treat. I will make this so exciting and rewarding that she will want to go more in the potty. Typically they won't pee right away on the potty. Many kids do not put together what they need to actually do until they fail. It's when they have an accident that everything will connect in their minds.

Fast forward to on and off the potty and feeling like your kids won't get it. You will be stuck at home forever training until they turn 16!

Aaannnnd they look at you and pee.

Here is your chance to connect the dots! 

"No pee pee! Pee Pee goes on the potty!" You run with them to the potty and pull their pants and trainers down and sit them on. Tears are usually flowing or shock. They don't like upsetting anyone. After letting them sit for a bit you will then tell them to take off their own bottoms. HELL in a child's eyes. All 4 of my kids never wanted to touch their yucky pants and hated having to undress themselves this way. Once you get through the task you will then have them go get clean bottoms. Talking often with them about how pee goes n the potty and not their panties or chonies. I hug it out after they are dressed because I can only deal with so much heart break. We go back into the cycle of reward for potty and unhappy for pee in the pants. Depending on your own child they will clue in to the positivity the potty brings to their life and how its yucky and not happy to pee in their pants.

Keep rewarding good dry pants.

My boys were much easier than Apple. They got the reward part VERY quickly. King was the longest taking to the next morning. (Kurt actually had to leave town to our other house because he couldn't handle the ups and downs of emotions! lol) Apple is a little more headstrong. She knew she wanted Nerds and would tell you constantly that she wanted to go "stinky". She also was like screw you I will hide behind plants, couches, chairs and pee. Luckily, she hated changing her clothes herself and we broke through on morning 3. It was the turning point where she didn't want to undress herself anymore and we have been sailing along ever since. 

Accidents will happen. You need to look a the situation that your child is in, whether it was a bad or an ok thing. Were you out shopping? Not their fault. Were you cooking in the kitchen and they hid behind the couch? Not good.

A couple more notes :

Pooping can be a big deal. Most kids show signs of needing to go and also go the same time each day. Watch for this and keep them on the potty longer and more often. DO NOT GIVE. IN!

Night training. You will need to help them along with this by not giving loads of fluids or bottles before bed. You are setting them up for failure if you give 9 oz milk before sleep!

Night training. Put them pee before bed and as soon as they wake up. Again, reward like crazy for dry beds. Some moms choose to do pull ups at night and others use trainers. I did trainers with the boys but am too busy for bedding changes now so with Apple I did pull ups.

When you think you have made progress take your child shopping for big kid undies. Make it the best most exciting thing of your day. They usually won't want to spoil their pretty panties or cool superhero ginch.

Don't stress if your child takes slightly longer but do look at what you are doing. Find a reward that may be better than the one you gave. Are they sticker fans? Give them a sticker. Do they love the iPad? Allow them a few minutes after they go and not any other time to entice them. Finding the right reward helps. Also make sure you are STERN when you show your upset. A solid voice helps them understand mom/dad are serious about this new deal.

This was actually a really hard post to write. How do you put online publicly what you do for potty training when it involves dreaded candy and mean mom status? I am sure I will get some trolls that will hate me but again I will say I have been around the block wth kids. My adult son isn't in need of therapy for his potty training days.

Find your groove with your child. You know them best! If you take 1 part of what I do or no part or follow exactly everything just make sure you both are thriving from it.




GOOD LUCK!!! YOU WILL MISS DIAPERS WHEN YOU ARE OUT GROCERY SHOPPING AND RUNNING THROUGH AISLES TO FIND THE BATHROOM....ONLY TO WAIT OUT FRONT THE DOOR AS SOME OLD GUY TAKES FOREVER AND YOU NEAR PUKE FROM USING IT AFTER.




Bjorn Potty


Seat for top of toilet.


Stool for hand washing and getting up the big toilet.

Burts Bees Training Pants have a good slim fit. They are not leak proof but I like that for knowing when they go.
Applecheeks Learning Pants are great for on the go. They have more of a waterproof layer and absorb accidents well. Also good night time bottoms.


























Carmen the Modern Mom X Applecheeks swim set ...

Friday, September 21, 2018


We are very excited to announce our limited edition swim set designed with Applecheeks cloth diaper company. It is something old and something new...

The classic swim diaper with a new top to match! In a limited release color Peony!


Applecheeks has always had the best swim diapers. You don't need to worry when you are swimming with your baby in the pool! They work great holding in what you need if baby decides to go number two. They are also easy for vacations because you don't need to take up precious luggage space with a pack of awful throw away swimmers! A real win for you and the environment.

When Apple was tiny we of course wanted to use Applecheek swimmers but I always felt like she needed more on than just the diaper. Something that I would have never thought of with the boys. So I started to bug my pals at the Applecheeks HQ saying I would love to help them design something cute and flattering with an easy fit to match the swimmer bottom. After sketching things out and a few trials of fit and function we have come up with the Carmen the Modern Mom X Applecheeks swim set!

These swim sets are perfect for swimming lessons, pubic pools and of course on your next vacation!



The classic swim bottom comes in 2 sizes. Size 1 and size 2. 
Apple is in a size 1 with such a tiny butt and only weighing 21.5 pounds we haven't stepped up to the 2's yet.


The easy fit top is designed to compliment the bottoms with ruffles at the front and a bow tie at the back. The neck tie keeps the top in place perfectly and gives lots of adjustment for different size babies.


The best part about Applecheeks swim is they dry quickly! Your little one doesn't need to shiver in a padded and soaking wet cold swim diaper!


Ready to dive in!


Nothing better than a cute ruffle butt!


A close up of the great leg fit you get with Applecheeks. (Their cloth diapers fit just as amazing!)

Snaps on the swim diaper will not snag your swimsuit. (I totally do not understand velcro usage in pool wear??) The snaps also make it a snap to change your baby!


Check out that pretty tag!!!


A very special Thank You to Amy & Ilana for making a girl moms dreams come true!


BUY your Carmen the Modern Mom X Applecheeks Swim Set HERE

Prices in Canadian Dollars.

Tent : Sage Pole buy HERE
Sunglasses : Babiators buy HERE
 

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